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When you hear the word 'BONUS'....




 
The moment we receive a financial ‘Bonus’ it is time to pay that bill that would usually have to wait until your next pay date, get that item that you would generally not be able to afford, or maybe even prepay for an item or service that you would generally pay on installments.  Whichever option is the best for your situation it all comes down to a ‘Bonus’ being a great increase or what I like to call a true BLESSING.  It tends to have a wonderful effect on your mood and purse/wallet.  I like to wonder why we don’t allow ‘Bonuses’ that come in other forms have the same effect on us.

There is a very negative stamina that has been placed upon step parenting and I’ve always disliked it because it can truly become a myth if we as a society choose for it to.  In many instances it is lack of knowledge, insecurities as well as selfishness that causes this negativity to run rapid in your personal situation.  I was provided with a great example of harmony in a blended family as I was raised in one and yes I maintained a healthy relationship with my paternal family and after years of trust building (no fault of my blended family life) have found that my biological father is one of my best friends; yet was raised in a non-bias parenting structure as my stepfather is the biological father of my sister but it was not apparent in his actions. 

As a single parent I knew I would find myself in a situation no matter what side of the court I would be playing ball for (blended household or biological parent) therefore I vowed that this shall be a peaceful situation for my child.  I wanted to be a mother that exudes confidence in my parenting and secure in my role as her mother as not to deflect such feelings upon her or forced into dishonesty in her rearing.  Through many tests and trials I’ve been able to stand on this.  Now I stand as a married woman now raising my children in a blended environment while also inheriting a stepson.  It has been a difficult personal journey as to how to make all the branches to our tree connect to the same tree trunk but I think we have finally figured it out. 

Yes, we have; his, hers and our children but I can FINALLY say I would not trade it.  I can say my stepson is my ‘BONUS’ baby…….no matter the circumstances or difficulties that present itself in co-parenting.  I’ve made a personal proclamation not to limit the ability for my children to be a person’s ‘Bonus’.  I will not allow any of my personal strongholds or anyone else to effect my baby boy being my ‘Bonus’.  Upon taking this personal stance and allowing God to transform things in my heart it has been a wonderful feeling to add an additional child to my heart that I didn’t even have to labor.  I’m a mother of a large ‘Crew’ and I absolutely love it and if I had the financial backing of Oprah Winfrey I would have another….well if my hubby agreed.  Lol

I now thank God that I have been oh so blessed through marriage to have so many individuals to increase my world.  The first child that I was able to be an aunt to; my sister in-laws smart and so eloquent daughter My own personal MamaMia, another mother and father to offer additional child rearing advice as well as just life advice to get me from one obstacle to another with Peace, a brother in-law offering a brother that I never had and I can never forget my sister in-law that’s the big sister that I never had and I appreciate immensely (increasing my own ability to be a better big sister to my own sister).
So you see a ‘Bonus’ isn’t always that of a financial increase yet it may also be a family increase but you must remember that it is just that an increase and how can you deny a Godly INCREASE.  I have personally accepted my increase and I thank God for it because he is definitely a ‘BONUS’. 

Until Next Time.

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