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The Positive Side

Well hello again.  Some months ago I felt my heart urging me to find a more POSITIVE mental Me.  Just to give you a little background of my decision was the need to lead a life with less stress and communicate more effectively.  I have found myself speaking extremely critical of myself as well as situations even those in which I had no involvement.   I also had major issues finding the positive in situations yet no issue finding a complaint.  See people this is not where God stands….God's word says:  Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world. Philippians 2:14-15

In making a step in the right direction I challenged myself to go three (3) days without complaining or criticizing.  Each moment I did I attempted to correct myself by replacing my negative speaking with POSITIVE speaking.  The first day I found it to be silly and annoying but was quickly convicted.  I didn't desire to do it upon realizing the difficulty of the challenge.  Several months ago I was lead to invite other women to join the challenge once more for 7 days.  I lead another challenge at the beginning of the year in which several women joined for 10 days.  

I've also been doing a lot of research on positive discipline that results in well behaved happy children.  I like many other mommies run a pretty tight ship to maintain some form of order.  I would however like to work on the number of times I raise my voice.  Many times it is out of fear, frustration or even mere shock from one of my loving children's behavior. 😯  In my research I've discovered that my first step in the correct direction is to take a moment to think, calm myself and then respond. 

One of the most important positive challenges I've taken on is as a wife.  When you are the parents of 5 children, work full-time outside the home and kids are involved in multiple activities it becomes difficult to respond to your spouse in a positive manner no matter the situation.  Well maybe it's just me?  Lol.  My husband has been one of my best friends for  over 16 years and I don't even remember not loving him so I definitely want a life long relationship with him as his wife.  I find the best way to improve any relationship is to look into yourself, so I've done just that.  I often privately challenge myself not to complain to him or about him for an extended period.  Making sure to speak positive and uplift him.  

Now how many times have you had a critical or complaining thought the few minutes it took you to read this post?  How often do you justify your criticism as being constructive?  So I challenge you today to think POSITIVE for 24 hours.  The moments when things seem to be at its worst speak positive to yourself.   

Until next time.

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