Transition of MzzA

During a conversation with a really good friend of mine and a great testimony at church Sunday it occurred to me that many of us are afraid of succeeding or held back due to our ‘past’.   As a society we deal more on the past than the future which is a huge hindrance and can even hold us back from our destiny that was planned for us before we were conceived.   I find that it is important as a society that we no longer evaluate the worth of an individual based on their past yet more based on their present and potential.   We can assist in the pushing of someone into their destiny just as we have the ability to do the opposite.     It is just as important that we not be afraid to tell our own ‘past’ goodbye.   At what point of life is it okay to admit your transgressions and confess to your growth while not being fearful to step forward?   I always tell people that; “You cannot drive forward successfully while looking in the rearview mirror”...

Just imagine your hunny waking you in a panic as the entire house had overslept about 45 minutes.   Don’t think 45 minutes is much……oh you have never experienced a morning with the Aliyy’s.   Oh goodness; Jamir doesn’t have any clean underwear.   I went into a true panic at this point.   Of course you can’t wash any when you are already late so what’s the next best thing?   Put him on a pair of his twin’s undies that’s one size smaller than his.   Get shirts ironed and by chance or an act of God open the dryer to discover this child has two pair in the dryer.   Thank you God….I knew you loved me.   So the girls are dressed grabbed a breakfast snack and daddy got them out and headed to school.   Now leaving me solo with two year old twins and I’m in need of a shower.   What exactly does it mean when you say; sit right here boys and watch TV while mommy takes a quick shower.     It means the following: 1.   ...

As we have now entered into a new year I see the growth and change that has pushed me into this year.   2012 provided me with several learning experiences and many changes that I will take into 2013.   In 2012 my family said hello to a sister getting married {new brother in-law} as well as a mommy getting engaged…..we now look forward to the soon arrival of a new nephew bringing in 2013 with a BIG BANG!!   I see the maturity in my marriage in a year’s time.   My children have also all began new chapters as we enter into another year and it is great to see…..   2012…….   Raven has gone from an uncomfortable middle school freshman questioning her place to a straight ‘A’ 7 th grader taking a place in society.   An artistic mind with a fashion sense to kill….all while making her parents extremely proud.   We do encounter typical preteen and parenting conflicts but I have loved every day of being her mom and she makes me immensely prou...

Well the hubby and I survived an eventful Christmas with the 'Crew'. We were able to enjoy our holiday season with all '5' of our children and it was wonderful. I have a wonderful family and would not trade any of them nor the unique aspect each of them bring into our lives. Of course the children enjoyed the gift exchange and for the first year our 5 year old had an understanding of the purposes of the season and had a heart compelled to give. I provided her with funds to purchase gifts for her siblings at her school holiday store and she could not have been more excited to give. The moments like those are wonderful 'pats on the back' for a parent and bring joy to my heart. Watching my step-son play with his siblings and look back at me only to say, "I'm having a great time.....having so much fun". Those moments erase any doubt or confusion that co-parenting may bring on because when it is all said and done, it is about the joy of a child. ...

In the light of a tragedy that really hit home to me due to me being a mother I feel the urge to express my new found clarity.   It is clear from the response of many people around me that fear exudes anger as does an angry spirit around you.   I’m not sure that I understand how such a tragedy which has left an entire town in pain can cause society to be so hateful in response.   I see that no matter the motive nothing with justify the harming of little innocent children and no gun law or armed teachers will correct this.   This dangerous person was clearly controlled in anger and we are allowing his anger to be exuded among us. I feel that this is the time for society to support one another and pray for a devastated community rather than arguing about gun laws or the reason for the killings or who is to blame (the mother, the father, or lack of mental health assistance).   The respect has been lost in society and even I am re-evaluating myself to take re...

In looking up the definition of abnormality I found it to mean: an abnormal condition, state, or quality; irregularity; deviation.  This may be a permenant or temporary state and in many cases it is up to one to do something in order to determine which it will be.  I have decided that my holiday spirit abnormality shall be a temporary state as I'm not satisfied with this deviation.  lol I am generally a sap for the Christmas holidays and generally extremely excited to shop, decorate and bake yet this year I have yet to get into that spirit of cheer and excitement.  I haven't been able to find the joy yet after much prayer and soul searching I figured it out.  I'm looking too much into the natural things for the joy that I need......I need to simplify my desires and get into the joy and meaning of this season.  No matter my faults, misfortunes, or earthly desires God still remains God and we must celebrate the birth of Jesus if we are b...

After a 23 year friendship I'm able to celebrate with one of my best friends as she embarks on becoming a wife.  Today we celebrated her as bride to be through a successful bridal shower.  There are not many individuals outside of family that one is able to love genuinely.  I have learned through the years that many people look for friendships/relationships and love yet do not make themselves available to be loved. Well after establishing a great friendship in the 1st grade I have not only learned how to be a great adult friend making myself available to be loved and maintain my responsibilities as a mother, wife, sister, daughter, niece and .......  I am so excited to see the growth and prosperity in my friend.  I join her in praying and pushing her into a successful marriage.  In this success we began with honeymoon attire.....lol  I love Javashea and wish you and Darian a lifetime of joy and peace in your marriage. ...